Success…why does this word intimidate so many people? I’ve been reading Secrets of the Millionaire Mind: Mastering the Inner Game of Wealth by T. Harv Eker. This book was recommended to me by so many people, I figured I’d take a look at it. Other than Eker’s repeated reminders to attend his intensive seminar, his material reminds me a lot of Barbara Stanny’s work. Both of them start at the same place.
Your head and your heart.
Success is a remarkable experience and yet also very personal. There are so many beliefs about success. How much is appropriate? What is acceptable to say about one’s level of success? In my work with E.G.G.’s (entrepreneurial small business owners and freelancers) there is usually a discussion about specific revenue goals. Inevitably, we run into some interesting ideas about what would happen if they became successful. Maybe some of these sound familiar to you?
- Money is not important
- I’ll become like Gordon Gekko
- It’s too much work
- My family and friends will stop loving me
In a nutshell, are you saying you are going to become some kind of ugly, greedy monster? That is usually the implication. If you’re a regular reader of this blog, you know I’m not a big fan of the Law of Atraction. You’re not going to become some kind of negative magnet if you feel doubt or anxiety about choosing to become successful. However, there is some value in the Law of Attraction mindset that is worth considering.
Success is a choice. So is ditching your value system. When we recognize that we want something other than what our parents, our friends, our teachers or even our national culture tells us is appropriate, we feel the trepidation that comes with rejecting the status quo. We tell ourselves stories and some of these stories are sad and scary because they reflect our fears. When we believe these stories, we act as if they are true and so we make them real.
A good E.G.G. knows it’s just a story. These negative stories simply give us a way to act so we can keep ourselves down and unsuccessful. This doesn’t mean you are necessarily a failure. For example, you might have a business where making $100,000 is your comfort zone. There are very few who would think that’s failure. But you could be telling youself a story that it’s not safe to make $250,000 or $1,000,000.
And yet,there is another story the good E.G.G. wants to tell and the plotline is spectacular! The main character, You, sees some way to contribute to making the world a better place and founds a small business. The drama unfolds as You set the goals and achieve the results you desire. Maybe it’s providing yourself and/or your family with security, financial freedom, or the adventures of travel. Maybe it’s providing your wealth management expertise so no one has to face retirement as the desperate old woman or man trying to pay for everything out of your Social Security or old age pension checks. Maybe you’ve got the way to bring consistent trade and prosperity to Africa.
It all goes back to how you think and feel about success. What’s your E.G.G. story?
*I invite you to take a look at the How To Be an E.G.G.™ program and see if it would help you and your business design a different type of success story , greater clarity about yourself, and walk away with a basic business plan that fits your business. This is the last time I’m offering it as an 8-week teleseminar series so take advantage of the Early Bird price that expires on Thursday, September 30,2010. You can learn more about this quick, energizing booster of a program by going to www.abilitysuccessgrowth.com/how-to-be-an-egg/ I look forward to meeting you and learning more about your business!